So it’s over... Life happened. Things changed. And: you’re *consciously* actually okay with it!
Yet...you also find yourself reminiscing about how good it was. Plaguing yourself by looking at their pictures even though you *know* that’s not a good idea... (Maybe even not washing that shirt that smells like them JUST YET...)
You *know* that you need to move on with your life. That new things are awaiting you. That it’s time to face reality. And that you’ll be okay. Yet you’re painfully aware of your tendency to hold on to the good feelings, the hopes and dreams a ‘little’ longer.
Wondering why you are not letting go? This mini-blog is for you.
Your tendency can have several causes. But it all starts here:
Even though you consciously want to let go, the fact that you’re engaging in behaviour like looking at their pictures means there is a part of you that doesn’t want to let go.
So get to know that part. Without judging it. Without trying to ‘fix’ it. Just with curiosity. And know that this part doesn’t want to let go because according to it, holding on is safer than letting go. Maybe it even unconsciously enjoys the cringey feelings (existential kink anyone?)
Consider this: You don’t need them. You need what you think they gave you.
Maybe it’s connection. Maybe a feeling of belonging. Maybe simply warmth and safety. Maybe even money. Welcome all emotions that you feel. Acknowledge the reluctance to let go. And look at the desire that is underneath. And know that that is what you actually want.
Did you spot your desire...? Then look inside and give it to yourself as much as possible. Make a plan. And go out into the world with an openness to receive just that. This is not about them.
Ps. now put away those pictures and wash that dirty shirt already! (and explore any cringe you felt while reading that;))
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